Anger & fear: each triggers the other

Jan. 23, 2004

Guides: Don’t allow yourself to be motivated by either anger or fear.  Don’t let fear drive you, don’t let anger hold you back.  Because each triggers the other: if you allow yourself to be driven by fear, the anger rises in protest and makes you hold back; if you allow yourself to be held back by anger, the fear rises using urgency as the excuse.  Can you imagine how it would be to work just for money, motivated by neither?

Karen: Ummmmm..... no.  I figure it would be wonderful, though.  A beautiful Nirvana that I must work towards.

Guides: What is the common driver for both?   

Karen: My mother’s voice in my head.  Her criticisms.  Actually my father’s too, and everyone else in my family, as they all picked it up from our parents.

Guides: So, you have to eliminate your mother’s voice in your head.

Karen: Sure!  No problem!  Where do I buy a bottle?